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Don’t let this new year pass you by – shine the light and attention on your erotic personal life! We say, let this be the year you gain absolute clarity on what you want – in the bedroom and beyond that. Most importantly, be honest with yourself about your needs and what kind of relationship or partner you desire. Need ideas for New Year’s sex resolutions? Here are our suggestions…
10 sexy resolutions for 2023
1. Unleash your erotic self
Do you remember what it feels like to be turned on by yourself? Let that feeling flow through every cell of your body. Whether it’s in small ways (like wearing red lipstick) or big gestures (like getting yourself off), try doing things that make you feel good. This way, you’ll rediscover your sensual self and awaken your erotic body.
2. It’s all in the mind
The key is being unapologetic about wanting pleasure for yourself. If we don’t want to receive it, who will give it to us? We may not be able to control everything and everyone, but we can take care of ourselves better than most others. Hopefully, by extension, we can also help those around us see why self-care is so important.
3. Explore uncharted territory
Want to jazz up your sex life with your partner or do it solo? Give yourself permission to explore something new. Try out an erotica book together (with consent, of course), play a round of Truth or Dare during foreplay, or even get into role-playing games like Dungeons & Dragons.
4. Fun times ahead
Bring things into your life that are fun, funny and pleasurable. We’re not the same person every day. Some days, we want sexy and sensational, but other times, we’re happy to relax with no plans. How about experimenting with lights, sounds, scents and textiles that awaken your senses during sex? This has a lot to do with what you like in the moment – anything goes, as long as you’re enjoying yourself!
5. Pencil in romance
Okay, it doesn’t sound sexy, but things scheduled on your calendar are more likely to happen. How about making it a point to do date night at least once a week? This is a sacred time to connect without pressure and make space for sex. Or you can even take sex completely off the table and dive deep into romance and emotional connection. Tip: avoid talking about stressful, difficult or sensitive topics and let this be the quality time you both deserve.
6. Tune in to your energy
If you’re feeling burnt out, take a moment to reflect on what makes you feel alive and vital. How about doing yoga, going for a walk in the woods, or listening to music that makes you feel happy and full of life? What gives you energy – is it laughing, dancing, connecting with others, or sitting quietly at home? Make that a priority and you’ll feel good about yourself.
7. Block out space for sexy time
Rather than having a quickie before work, why not try planning for sex on weekends when you’re more rested and have the mental space to connect with each other? The truth is, we can’t expect our bodies to perform like robots; we need to make space for sex to happen.
8. Rediscover your love for each other
Be mindful of what your partner likes (and doesn’t like) in bed. It’s important to communicate what works and what doesn’t. This can be as simple as asking if they want to change positions, or if there are specific things they’d like to try. Check in with your partner. Ask about their sexual fantasies or what they want to try in the bedroom. If it’s something you’re not into, don’t feel pressured – you can always say no. Remember, the point is to have fun!
9. Dress up for pleasure’s sake
We put on our best threads for work, but how about for yourself? Dressing to impress yourself can be a fantastic way to feel good about who you are and how you look. Rather than staying at home in ratty loungewear all day, throw on something that feels good or try something new until you discover what works. Buy yourself something special. Reward yourself from time to time. It’s not a waste if it makes you feel like a million dollars.
10. Spice things up with variety
It’s good for the erotic mind: try a new lubricant or go for something more risque such as role-playing. The possibilities are endless when it comes to the selection of sex toys and products out there. Things like vibrators and dildos come in all shapes, sizes, and functions; there’s no reason to be shy about what you want or need in bed.
Repeat after us: You’re amazing, and you’ve got this. Let go of your inhibitions and remember that sex is about being present with yourself, your partner, and the energy between you. Don’t project what sex is like for others; focus on your relationship. Sex is all about experimentation, and the best sex of your life can happen at any age. Try new things and be open with yourself and your partner. Sex is meant to feel good and be fun!