There’s never a wrong moment to surprise your sweetheart with a gift that says you appreciate them, so why not mix it up with sex toys for couples?
When special occasions (like Valentine’s Day) come around, traditional romantic presents such as chocolates and flowers are a safe default. But we believe you can do better. Here’s a hint: try something different and take your relationship to the next level by making your partner feel oh-so-good… with an adult toy. Gone are the days when they were seen as a novelty or something shameful. They’re an embodiment of liberation and self-exploration – a gateway to a world full of pleasure. Sex toys can spice up any relationship, from new lovers to married couples.
Tip: before you buy one for your sweetheart (especially if it’s your first time), the last thing you want to do is present it as a gag gift and make a faux pas. Here’s a breakdown of everything you need to know about gifting your boo a sex toy – the right way – and unboxing it as a couple for an intimate and memorable time together.
Make sure you’re both open to dialling up the fun
You may be in a physically intimate relationship with your partner, but that doesn’t mean they’ll appreciate you giving them a sex toy as a gift. Even if you want it to be a surprise, there has to be a balance. Have an open conversation about this unique gifting idea with your beloved so you can gauge their comfort level.
Try saying something like, “I read that adult toys can enhance our sex life, want to give them a try?” or “Those fluffy handcuffs would look good on you. What do you think?” Using abstract conversations or dirty talk can set the tone for your next steps. Most importantly, you want your other half to know that this is a “we” thing. It’s a special bonding activity for you to share and create new experiences together.
Sometimes, it’s a matter of warming up to the idea of trying something new. If your significant other expresses a keen interest to explore this threshold with you, go ahead. However, some might take immediate offence to the gesture. Sex toys may not be for everyone, but there are plenty of other ways to have fun in the bedroom (hint: use your body parts!).
Go on a shopping spree together… and make it naughty
Now that you’ve got the heavy lifting out of the way, on to the fun part: shopping! Getting a sex toy with your partner makes things hotter. You can discuss and pick out the perfect toys for one another, have cheeky conversations, and fantasise about all the things you’ll do to one another with your new tool. This helps to build up anticipation and arousal.
Shopping together is exhilarating, and it’s also a great addition to foreplay outside the bedroom. Mental foreplay is one of the most enjoyable – after all, the brain is the biggest sex organ. When you engage in foreplay, it builds emotional intimacy that can make you and your SO feel more deeply connected with each other.
Don’t forget to do your homework
The truth is, sex toys come in all shapes and sizes to complement everyone’s taste for pleasure. The first thing to look out for? The quality of the material. Pick something that’s non-porous so you can clean all the surfaces and destroy any lingering bacteria.
If you’ve eyed a particular toy for a while, find out its benefits and what it might do for you and your partner. Choose a shop or website that’s well-respected with high standards (quality, safety and functionality first) and a good reputation for offering stellar service. Need more help? We’ve curated a simple sex toy matchmaking selection for couples.
Types of sex toys for couples
1. The shy couple: If you appreciate a sensual, romantic time together…
Discover the advantages of online sex toy shopping together. You’ll maintain anonymity while still in your pyjamas, all snuggled up in each other’s arms as you browse through the catalogue. Don’t be afraid to try something small and discreet for your first toy – they come in various cute designs, in shapes like a bunny, a banana and even a rose. Your cheeky toys will look chic enough to be left on your nightstand!
2. The adventurous couple: If you’re adrenaline seekers looking to get your socks knocked off…
How about doing your bedroom activities outdoors? Ever heard of a remote-controlled panty vibrator? Explore getting extra naughty with bae as you both try to maintain a poker face while pushing the buttons to turn up the intensity of your sex toy. These vibrators typically come with a strong magnetic feature that you can clip onto any underwear; or a wearable design that massages the wearer internally for a thrilling and unforgettable experience.
3. The Hollywood couple: If you’re passionate lovers who enjoy a little acting…
Experience sexual bonding with your consenting partner as you dabble in roleplay or BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism). If it’s your first time, be sensitive and go slow. Bondage is safe and can be enjoyed by all if introduced correctly and not abrasively. Respond to your lover’s reactions appropriately and provide reassurance through encouragement and touch.
When it comes to roleplaying, find a costume or lingerie that will empower you to take charge in the bedroom and help you stay in character. To complement your look, add accessories to enhance pleasure. Try including comfortable blindfolds or fluffy handcuffs to heighten your other senses with sensory deprivation. Or spice things up with a spank paddle or adjustable nipple clamps to have your lover at your mercy. If all this is too much for you, they can simply be used as props to “intimidate” your date.
Celebrate your other half as you develop a deeper level of intimacy while trying new modes of pleasure and play for a satisfying sex life!