Explore the art of climaxing by mastering the techniques of mind-blowing orgasms for any gender.
Ah, the big O. When it comes to understanding the varieties of orgasms, there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. Everyone’s orgasm experiences are unique and can vary depending on gender, sexuality, and even individual anatomy. Some are accompanied by muscle contractions in the pelvic area so just relax and enjoy the moment to the fullest. And remember, communication is key. So let your partner know your preferred level of intensity… y’know, from ‘ah’ to ‘aaaaah’.
Speaking of intensity, it’s important to remember that everyone experiences orgasms differently, and there’s no “right” way to feel. Instead of labelling orgasms as good, better, or best, focus on the pleasure and sensations you experience in the moment.
You may experience different levels of intensity during orgasms. A mild orgasm can feel like a gentle release of tension or pleasure – think a gentle breeze on a warm day. Meanwhile, an intense orgasm can feel like a wave of pleasure that radiates throughout the body. It can be accompanied by muscle contractions – like a thunderstorm within. Or “reaching a pinnacle, a release”, as the Duke of Hastings from Netflix’s Bridgerton aptly puts it.
In this gender-inclusive guide, we spill all the ways to explore the different types of orgasms and help you understand how to maximise pleasure for yourself and your partner.
How to master different types of orgasms
1. Clitoral orgasm
It’s achieved through direct stimulation of the clitoris. This orgasm can be experienced as a pleasurable sensation that radiates throughout the body. It can range from mild to intense – often accompanied by muscle contractions in the pelvic area. To attain a clitoral orgasm, focus on stimulating the clitoris with gentle pressure or circular motions using fingers, tongue, or sex toys.
2. Vaginal orgasm
Did you know that a vaginal orgasm is caused by the stimulation of the inner walls of the vagina? Yup, this can be experienced as a deep, intense sensation and can range from mild to intense – depending on how far you take it. It’s also often accompanied by muscle contractions in the pelvic area. Plan to go to O-town? Focus on stimulating the inner walls of the vagina with slow, deep thrusting or circular motions.
3. G-spot orgasm
This notorious orgasm is caused by the stimulation of the G-spot (also known as the Grafenberg spot, not to be confused with the male G-spot), which is located on the front wall of the vagina. While it’s true that some may find it more difficult to achieve a G-spot orgasm, this can vary from person to person. Don’t let that stop you and your partner from experimenting and exploring to find out what works best. To find the G-spot, insert a finger or sex toy into the vagina and make a “come hither” motion towards the front vaginal wall. You should feel a slightly rougher area that’s often described as a walnut.
4. Anal orgasm
Enjoy the stimulation of the anal area through this orgasm and experience an intense sensation that’ll send shockwaves down your body. It’s often accompanied by muscle contractions in the pelvic area. To achieve an anal orgasm, focus on stimulating the anal opening and inner walls with slow, deep thrusting or circular motions.
5. Nipple orgasm
Yup, you can actually get an orgasm by stimulating the nipples. Focus on stimulating the nipples with gentle pressure or circular motions. But be gentle and always communicate with your partner if things get a little heated.
6. Perineal orgasm
Give ‘em a sensational surprise with this sweet spot – the perineum. It’s located between the anus and scrotum or vulva. To attain a perineal orgasm, stimulate the area between the anus and the scrotum (or vulva) with gentle pressure or circular motions.
7. Prostate orgasm
This o-wesome option makes an appearance by stimulating the prostate gland, which is located between the bladder and rectum in males. Focus on stimulating the prostate gland located in the male pelvic area with gentle pressure or circular motions and you’ll be on your way to oblivion.
8. Skin orgasm
This one might be overlooked compared to the others but don’t underestimate it. Give ‘em (or yourself) a gentle caressing or light touch on different areas. It can be experienced as a pleasurable sensation that radiates throughout your body.
9. Energy orgasm
Ever heard of an energy orgasm? This involves releasing built up sexual energy without any physical stimulation or contact with another person. Just focus on breathing deeply and allowing your body to relax into pleasure while focusing your attention on your body and your sexual energy. This can be done alone or with a partner.
Don’t feel down if there isn’t a climax
It’s common to feel pressure to achieve orgasm or shame if you’re unable to do so. However, it’s important to recognise that sexual pleasure and satisfaction can come from a variety of experiences, not just orgasms. Focusing on pleasure, intimacy, and connection with your partner can be just as valuable as achieving orgasm.
Be kind and patient with yourself. Experimenting with different techniques or exploring your body in new ways can be a fun and exciting way to learn what feels good for you. It’s also important to communicate openly with your partner about your needs and desires. Remember that sexual experiences are a journey, not a destination.
The variety of orgasms is a testament to the complexity and beauty of our bodies. Explore these different types of orgasms, both alone and with your partner, to deepen your understanding of yourself and your pleasure. Psst: check out all the recorded courses by Eros Coaching to better give pleasure to your partner, especially the Bedroom Confidence series.