Feeling the jitters? We’ve got your back with these first date tips to keep the conversation flowing and the good vibes rolling.
Ah, first dates. We’ve all been there and done that. The nervous anticipation brewing in your stomach as you head to the restaurant with clammy palms. The awkward greeting as you debate whether it’s better to go for a handshake or a hug – we recommend neither. And the uncertainty of not knowing how this first meeting will turn out. Is there anything that can make these first hangouts less painful? Good news, yes! Our tried-and-tested first date tips will help you breeze through your dating adventures. Have this list in your back pocket to keep those jitters away!
5 tips for a smooth sailing first date
1. Pick the right spot
Take it from us, the right venue can make or break the entire date experience. Too crowded? It’ll make it hard to hear your date above all the noise and clutter. Or, too quiet? The stifling atmosphere can cause you to feel less comfortable and less inclined to share. And, of course, there’s the constant debate of whether a fine dining restaurant, casual coffee spot, or bar reigns supreme.
Our two cents: choose a casual restaurant or cafe for a more relaxed environment – preferably one that isn’t too quiet where you can hear a pin drop, but has a comfortable level of chatter. It also helps if you’ve been to the place before and are well-oriented with the ambience. If you’re the one deciding the date spot, we recommend asking if your date has any dietary restrictions or preferences first. Trust us, being thoughtful will score you major points in their book.
2. Be in tip-top shape
First impressions matter, and nope, it’s not just about how you look. Of course, you want to strike a balance between comfort and style. But it’s important to bring your A game mentally. This means clearing your head, adopting a positive and open mindset, and crushing those overthinking spirals. If all else fails, just remember to breathe.
When it comes to physical appearance, our teeth are often overlooked – and you’ll be surprised by the significance of sparkly whites. In fact, a study in the US showed that a person’s smile is the top physical trait to make a first impression! Besides the usual oral care routine (that you should be practising), having a handy whitening tool can do wonders.
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3. Keep the ball (and good vibes) rolling
One reason why people (us, included) find first dates uncomfortable is because of the dreaded awkwardness. But news flash: occasional silences or awkward moments are inevitable. After all, you are two strangers meeting for the first time, so cut yourself some slack.
To minimise these uncomfortable instances, have a few lighthearted topics on hand to keep the conversation going. Ask about their hobbies, favourite travel experiences, and childhood memories. We don’t recommend venturing into heavier topics like money and salary, past relationships, or future family plans – unless it’s a deal breaker you want to discuss. Oh, and don’t let yourself ramble on for too long. Pass the ball back to them so you can hear what they have to say, too.
4. Mind your body language
Do you know your body language can convey up to 70% of communication? Those subtle eyebrow raises, frowns, crossed arms and nods can speak volumes about your emotions, intentions and reactions. While unintentional and unconscious at times, your date may get the wrong impression from your body language.
Not only does open body language help show your interest, it also shows confidence, reassures the other party and builds connection. Avoid closed-off body language (think crossed arms, poor eye contact and slumped shoulders). Instead, show that you’re actively listening by maintaining regular eye contact, nodding your head at appropriate times, and keeping an open posture.
5. Wrap things up on a good note
How you end the date can set the tone for what’s next. Felt sparks flying? That’s great news. Let your date know you had a pleasant time, or even go further to express your interest in meeting again. Tip: if they mentioned an activity on their to-do list or a restaurant they’ve been meaning to check out, use it as a natural way to suggest a second date. Even if the chemistry isn’t there, be courteous in ending things and let the person know how you feel. It’s 2025; let’s leave ghosting behind.
Say goodbye to first date jitters
First dates don’t have to be nerve-wracking, especially with these tried-and-tested tips to help you keep your cool. At the end of the day, it’s about finding someone you can connect and have fun with. So show up as your best self and enjoy the moment. Who knows? It might be the start of something new.
This post is in partnership with Colgate.
