We drop the deets on vaginismus, a surprisingly common condition that should be talked about more.
Vaginismus is a condition that affects many individuals, yet it is not often talked about openly. As a sexologist, I believe it is important to educate people about this condition and provide resources for those who may be experiencing it.
But first, what is vaginismus?
Vaginismus is a condition where the muscles around the vagina involuntarily contract, making penetration painful or impossible. This can occur during sexual intercourse, during a gynaecological exam, or even when attempting to insert a tampon. It’s important to note that vaginismus is not uncommon. In fact, studies have shown that up to 17% of women experience this condition at some point in their lives. However, it is often underreported and undertreated due to its stigma.
I have observed that there are several potential causes of vaginismus. One of the most common causes is a lack of sex education and understanding of female anatomy, which can lead to fear and anxiety around penetration. Additionally, societal stigma and shame around sex can also contribute to feelings of fear and anxiety.
Trauma, such as sexual abuse or assault, can also be a contributing factor to vaginismus. In these cases, the body may be responding to past trauma by involuntarily contracting the muscles around the vagina. Fear of pain during penetration is another common cause of vaginismus. This fear can be based on past experiences or simply a fear of the unknown. On the medical side, certain conditions, such as endometriosis or infections, can be a factor. In these cases, treating the underlying medical condition may help alleviate symptoms.
All the symptoms to look out for and ways to treat vaginismus
Symptoms of vaginismus can include pain during penetration, difficulty inserting objects into the vagina, and involuntary muscle contractions. It’s important to note that every individual’s experience with vaginismus is unique and may involve different symptoms and causes.
Fortunately, there are treatments available for vaginismus. These can include therapy to address underlying psychological factors, pelvic floor physical therapy to help relax the muscles around the vagina, and the use of dilators to gradually increase comfort with penetration.
1. Therapy
Therapy can help address underlying psychological factors that may be contributing to vaginismus, such as anxiety or trauma. A sexologist can work with clients to develop coping strategies and techniques to manage anxiety and fear related to penetration. Therapy can also help improve communication and intimacy with partners.
2. Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy
Pelvic floor physical therapy involves working with a trained professional to learn exercises and techniques to relax the muscles around the vagina. This can include internal and external massages, stretching, and relaxation exercises. A sexologist can refer clients to a qualified pelvic floor physical therapist in their area.
3. Dilators
Dilators are medical devices that come in a set of graduated sizes, used to gradually increase comfort with penetration. Dilators can be used in conjunction with therapy and pelvic floor physical therapy for optimal results.
It is important to note that treatment for vaginismus is highly individualised and may involve a combination of these approaches.
As a sexologist, I am here to provide a safe and non-judgmental space for individuals experiencing vaginismus. I use gender-neutral and sex-positive language to help clients feel comfortable discussing their concerns and work with them to develop a personalised treatment plan.
If you or someone you know is experiencing symptoms of vaginismus, I encourage you to seek help from a qualified sexologist or a health professional, especially from one who specialises in this. Together, we can work towards overcoming this condition and improving sexual health and wellness. Don’t hesitate to reach out – I am here to support you on your journey towards sexual empowerment.
