Being an LGBTQ+ ally is an important part of creating a safe and inclusive environment for everyone. Here’s what you can do.
For the uninitiated, Pride Month is an annual celebration of the LGBTQ+ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer or questioning, and other sexual identities) community that takes place in June. This umbrella term is used to describe people who identify as non-heterosexual and/or non-cisgender. Throughout the month, people take part in parades, marches, and other events to show their support for LGBTQ+ rights.
Allies can help create a more tolerant and accepting society by speaking out against discrimination, being role models, and providing support to those who struggle with their identity or face discrimination. This is someone who stands up for and supports the rights of LGBTQ+ people. Here are some practical ways you can help.
How to be an ally
1. Educate yourself
Understanding LGBTQ+ history is an important first step. Learn about their struggles and successes by reading books, watching documentaries, and connecting with people. I recommend Stonewall: The Riots That Sparked the Gay Revolution by David Carter; The Celluloid Closet, a documentary by Rob Epstein and Jeffrey Friedman; and Paris is Burning, a documentary by Jennie Livingston.
You don’t have to be an expert on all things LGBTQ+, but empathy is key. If you have friends or family in the community, showing support and love can positively impact their mental health.
2. Challenge your own prejudices and assumptions
It’s easy to make assumptions about someone’s gender or sexuality based on their appearance or behaviour. But, it’s important to respect that everyone has the right to be referred to by their preferred pronouns and gender identity. Pronouns can include he/him, she/her, and they/them. Gender identities can vary greatly, but common ones include transgender, non-binary, and genderqueer.
Some preconceived notions include assuming that being LGBTQ+ is a choice or that everyone in the community is promiscuous. Let’s recognise that these harmful stereotypes can perpetuate discrimination and stigma.
3. Show up at LGBTQ+ events
They’re a great way to meet new people, learn more about the movement, and show your solidarity. Pride Month is a time to recognise the struggles and achievements of the community. Events such as Pink Dot or Pink Fest (check out my Eros Coaching fringe events!) provide an opportunity to celebrate the diversity of gender and sexuality.
4. Speak up when you hear hate speech
When you hear homophobic or transphobic comments, it can be difficult to confront. But we need to speak up, show others that such negativity isn’t acceptable, and use certain circumstances as teachable moments. To avoid the situation escalating, try to understand where the other person is coming from and explain why their words or actions are hurtful. For a fruitful conversation, listen actively and be open to having a dialogue.
5. Support LGBTQ+-friendly businesses and groups
Many of these are actively working to create a more inclusive environment for the community. By supporting them, you can help create a world where everyone is treated with respect and dignity. Some LGBTQ+-friendly businesses I recommend include Heckin’ Unicorn, Prout, and The Damn Good Shop.
6. Volunteer at or donate to LGBTQ+ organisations
Organisations like The Trevor Project, Glaad, and The Human Rights Campaign focus on providing support, resources, and advocacy for the LGBTQ+ community. Monetary donations will help continue their work and make a real difference in their lives. You can also provide administrative support at events with places like Pelangi Pride Centre, The Greenhouse, and The T Project. No matter how you choose to volunteer, it’s a good way to show your solidarity.
7. Listen to and amplify the voices of LGBTQ+ people
This can take the form of supporting their activism, sharing their stories, and standing up for them when they face discrimination or prejudice. It also means understanding that everyone’s experience of gender and sexuality is unique and valid.
Advocate for change in your workplace, school, or community. This can include speaking up when you hear homophobic or transphobic language, or working with your employer or school to create initiatives that protect their rights. Simple ways to get started include educating yourself on LGBTQ+ issues and struggles, using inclusive language, and speaking up when you see discriminatory behaviour.
Being an LGBTQ+ ally helps to minimise discrimination and create a more inclusive society. It can also create a safe space for individuals to express themselves without fear of judgement or prejudice. Let’s foster greater understanding and respect among all groups of people. Each of us can take small steps to make a difference in becoming an LGBTQ ally.
