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So you\u2019ve had enough of the single life. You decide to put yourself out there<\/a> and start dating<\/a> a few people, eventually dwindling the number down to that one person you can see yourself with. Sounds easy enough, no? But we\u2019re in the modern age of romance, and there are other things you need to be aware of before you make it social media official. We\u2019re talking about sussing out potential flags in your relationship.<\/p>\n

We know what you\u2019re thinking: \u201cIs this really necessary?\u201d Well, unless you\u2019re planning to write a truckload of songs about your exes<\/a> like a certain someone<\/a>, it\u2019s totally<\/em> imperative. You\u2019ll be able to spot the signs and determine the next steps. Here\u2019s a breakdown of the different relationship flag colours, their meanings, and what you can do if you encounter them.<\/p>\n

United colours of relationship flags<\/h3>\n
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Did you know relationship flags go beyond red and green? Picture the traffic light system, except besides orange, there are a few more colours in between. According to Sam Roberts, founder and director of Olive Branch Psychology and Counselling<\/a>, flags in romantic entanglements can vary due to reasons such as underlying issues, communication patterns, emotional dynamics, attachment styles, and past experiences. These factors can impact how relationship problems are perceived and addressed.<\/p>\n

He also highlights other aspects that may influence the perception and interpretation of relationship flags. \u201cSocialisation and gender roles dictate expectations within relationships, impacting how flags are recognised based on cultural standards and values. Financial stability, socioeconomic status, and economic disparities may also contribute to power imbalances and relationship stressors.\u201d<\/p>\n

One thing to note is that there’s a difference between principles and preferences when it comes to interpreting flags in relationships. Declaring that you can\u2019t be together with someone because they\u2019re not good-looking is not a flag of any colour, so don\u2019t get it twisted. We\u2019re on the lookout for deal-breakers here.<\/p>\n

Fly this flag at full-mast<\/h3>\n
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Let\u2019s first dive into the easiest colour: green flags. This hue evokes calm and optimism, and signifies long-term potential in a relationship. Simply put, these are the signs that practically scream, \u201cThis one\u2019s a keeper!\u201d When you notice any of them, you\u2019re more likely to consider the other party favourably in the long run. Green flags include being able to communicate their feelings, have difficult conversations, respect your boundaries, pay attention to the minute details, and share the same values as you.<\/p>\n

Some love sceptics may deem the bar as low thanks to the abovementioned traits, but with the number of people who\u2019ve been burned by relationships in this day and age, watching out for green flags requires a lot of patience and trust. Listen to your gut instincts, folks! Don\u2019t be quick to bail on someone who displays these behaviours. (Yes, I\u2019m calling all of you<\/del> us out.)<\/p>\n

Now that we\u2019ve gotten green out of the way, let\u2019s hone in on the other colours: beige, pink, yellow, and orange flags. They may sound similar to one another, but the shades characterise quirks that shouldn\u2019t trigger alarm bells immediately. \u201cMinor quirks are small frustrations that happen occasionally in a relationship. These transpire from differences between people and their personal habits. They don’t cause big problems and can usually be fixed by talking about them,\u201d Sam explains.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not right, but it\u2019s okay<\/h3>\n
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Those active on TikTok<\/a> may be familiar with the term \u201cbeige flags\u201d. Previously, it was used for dating profiles that were boring or contained cliched liners. Nowadays, the expression has taken on a new meaning \u2013 a beige flag is a quirk that can be odd or unique, but is neither bad nor good.<\/p>\n

For example, someone I used to date would film themselves doing K-pop dances and upload the videos on social media. Nothing wrong with that, of course, but it\u2019s a very niche quirk. Beige flag, if you will. Another example is affecting a child-like voice when chatting with their pets (why they do it, I\u2019ll never understand).<\/p>\n

Are beige flags a cause for concern? Not really. If you\u2019ve noticed, they\u2019re mainly posted on TikTok for everyone\u2019s amusement. Think of these quirks as part of their personality, which made you fall for them in the first place.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, pink flags are subtle indicators you can probably overlook the first few times, but they\u2019ll nag at you\u2026 until eventually you need to talk about them. Pink flags vary, though the most common ones are avoiding difficult or uncomfortable conversations (having disagreements in a relationship is not a bad thing), mismatched love languages<\/a>, being constantly distracted by technology (exposing myself here), and sexual incompatibility<\/a>. Warning: don\u2019t let these issues simmer! Process and talk about them with your partner.<\/p>\n

\u201cIn a relationship, both partners should implement regular check-ins to nurture their bond and address emerging concerns,\u201d Sam explains. \u201cThis proactive approach facilitates healthy communication and enables them to resolve conflicts, ultimately strengthening their relationship promptly.\u201d<\/p>\n

You\u2019re in danger, girl<\/h3>\n
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When you think of yellow, you picture a colour often associated with happiness, sunshine, and hope. But in relationships, yellow flags are cautionary signs that tell you to tread carefully. While they may resemble pink flags, yellow flags are slightly more serious and warrant more attention. Examples include a lack of shared values and interests, unwillingness to compromise, and no social background (no friends to hang out with? That\u2019s a bit sus). Here\u2019s where you step back and try to find common ground.<\/p>\n

Meanwhile, orange flags are basically one step closer towards seriously dangerous territory. At this stage, problematic behaviours must be dealt with swiftly \u2013 no sweeping under the rug or burying your head in the sand. \u201cIf couples can\u2019t address their concerns themselves, seeking professional help can offer valuable guidance and support in navigating challenging situations,\u201d Sam suggests.<\/p>\n

Exhibiting passive-aggressive behaviour, being overbearingly jealous or possessive, constantly criticising the other party, and showing a lack of emotional availability are some instances of orange flags. These can negatively impact your relationship by eroding trust and causing emotional distress, eventually resulting in frequent conflicts. If left unresolved, they’ll lead to the biggest, oft-cited relationship flag.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t paint the town red<\/h3>\n
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@dustinpoynter<\/a> <\/p>\n

should i bring this red flag series over to tik tok? been doing it mostly on other platforms but thinking of changing that. sound off \ud83d\udea9 \ud83d\udc47\ud83c\udffb #redflag<\/a> #redflags<\/a> #sideeye<\/a> #viral<\/a> #trending<\/a> #foryou<\/a> <\/p>\n

\u266c original sound – Dustin Poynter<\/a> <\/section>\n<\/blockquote>\n