Orgasms aren’t a one-way show. We’ve got tips and techniques for the multi-orgasmic ride of your life.
There’s been a lot of fuss about the ability of some women to experience multiple orgasms during sex. While it can be an immensely blissful experience, there should never be any pressure to get this type of climax. The experience of more than one orgasm isn’t something to achieve but something to open up to. Instead of expectation and pressure, make your body a more welcoming place for the orgasms to keep rolling in.
What really happens during a female orgasm?
When your vulva climaxes, your heart rate increases, your vaginal muscles contract, and your whole body is flushed with hormones, especially oxytocin. It’s what gives you that satisfied, starry-eyed, cuddly feeling and has been called the ‘love hormone’, ‘cuddle hormone’ and ‘bonding hormone.’
High levels of oxytocin give a general sense of well-being and are important for mental health, so you can think of multiple orgasms as an extra helping of self-care!
What makes a woman go to O-land?
Whether it’s with a partner or during solo play, there are many techniques and types of stimulation that can lead you to orgasmic bliss. Studies on women’s sexuality tell us that clitoral stimulation is often the best and fastest route to orgasm, but blended orgasms (through clitoral and vaginal stimulation) are also a crowd favourite. In fact, in one study, 43% of women said that receiving penetration with clitoral stimulation at the same time was the most important factor in bringing them to climax.
Other body parts like the nipples, the perineum, the neck, and the anus can also be stimulated to reach peak pleasure. It’s not only physical sensations that can lead to orgasm, though. Mental stimulation such as fantasy and mental imagery can induce orgasm on their own. Mixing the two gives you a recipe that can lead to incredibly powerful orgasms.
5 expert tips for multiple orgasms
1. Get turned on
This might sound obvious, but arousal determines whether you’ll experience one orgasm, let alone multiple. A slow buildup can maintain more stable and long-lasting arousal, bringing you to higher heights once you reach climax.
Try edging for a more powerful orgasm – bring yourself to the brink of climax and pull back just before. Doing this multiple times can build up sexual ‘pressure’, which leads to a longer-lasting and more pleasurable orgasm. It also teaches your body to maintain long periods of high arousal as you play in the pleasure zone just before you peak. You can use this longer orgasm to induce a second (or third) climax.
2. Break out the Kegel exercises
Our pelvic floor muscles are key to discovering multiple orgasms. Exercise might not be the most exciting part of the multiorgasmic journey, but it’ll go a long way. There’s a carrot (or three) at the end of this stick!
To exercise the pelvic floor, contract the muscle you use to stop peeing mid-stream. Hold it for a few seconds before releasing it. Then do it again, 19 more times. Performing this exercise three times a day will strengthen your pelvic floor and increase blood flow to your genitals. More blood flow means more sensitivity, which means more orgasms.
During penetrative sex and at the point of your first orgasm, you can use your newly-toned muscles to increase your orgasmic contractions and lead to a second climax.
3. Don’t be afraid to explore different techniques
Switching between different types of stimulation is a great way to find yourself enjoying multiple peaks. As different kinds of stimuli can often bring on orgasms, it makes sense not to rely on just one.
Switch your approach right at the point of the first orgasm’s contractions. If your first orgasm was clitoral, for example, try switching to G-spot stimulation as soon as you feel your first climax. With so many potentially orgasmic erogenous zones, you have plenty of approaches to choose from.
It’s not only physical stimulation techniques that help. Controlling your breathing at the point of orgasm is an amazing way to maintain pleasure. Instead of falling into the natural temptation to take short, shallow breaths, exaggerate your breathing. Take long, deep breaths that will spread pleasure through your body and enhance each sensation you’re experiencing.
4. Switch up your sex positions
If you’re having penetrative sex, some positions work better than others. Switching from one to another in between orgasms can help those climaxes roll in. Any position that offers good access to your clitoris or G-spot (or both!) is bound to be a winner.
Try doggy style, the tried-and-true missionary position (tip: put a pillow under you to raise your hips), and reverse cowgirl or receiver-on-top positions to give you control over every sensation. These can pave the road to multiple orgasms – just experiment and have fun!
5. Play around with adult toys
Sex toys are designed to make pleasure more accessible – bringing them into the bedroom can be a game-changer. Vibrators and clitoral suckers are two stimulators that can help you reach climax quickly and reliably. The former works through direct stimulation and comes in different shapes and sizes, from small bullet ones to powerful wand massagers. The latter, on the other hand, doesn’t actually touch the clitoris itself. Instead, it uses air pressure to induce a soft suction-like feeling, and there’s less risk of the over-sensitivity that often stops multiple orgasms in their tracks.
For powerful blended orgasms, rabbit vibrators and dual stimulators give G-spot and clitoral stimulation at the same time. Sounds like a one-way ticket to your new favourite destination!
Multiple orgasms can be an incredible experience, but they’re not a measure of how ‘successful’ you are in the pleasure realm. Remember: whether or not you experience them, the most important thing is to be kind to yourself. Lean into your pleasure and don’t take sex too seriously – it’s meant to be fun, after all!