Settling Down with Kids in Jakarta
Moving to any new place can be bitter sweet. We asked an expert expat, living in Jakarta to furnish the details on settling your brood in the Big Durian.
Be patient, very patient
Transitions aren’t easy. They aren’t easy on you, on your kids or on your electric appliances. Settling in takes time. Don’t be too hard on yourself and make the best of your empty spaces. Don’t fret about that empty room; play hide and seek, build a space ship or use it as a ballet studio.
Talk to your kids
Sometimes we underestimate our children and think they don’t understand what’s going on. Even the littlest of toddlers feels when something is changing so make sure you explain to them what’s happening and tell them that soon their room will again be filled with their toys and familiar things.
Keep in touch with friends and family
The fact that you are in a new place doesn’t mean you’ve moved to a different planet. Make sure you keep in touch with your family soon after you get to your new home. If your kids miss their friends make Skype dates and stay in contact.
Accept all the help you are offered
It’s not easy accepting help, let alone asking for help. When you are in a new and unknown place, make the effort to ask people who’ve been there longer to give you a hand and inform you about your new surroundings.
Find familiar places
Of course this new place is not the same as the one you’ve come from. However, you will probably find places and things that remind you of home or at least are similar in the experience they provide. Enroll your kids in the activities they were doing before or find new activities that your kids enjoy.
Put yourself out there
This is another difficult task, requiring confidence, but one that reaps so many benefits. As a newbie it’s difficult to meet new people but make sure you get involved in the different communities that interest you. You will very likely find other parents with similar interests who in turn will introduce you to their circle of friends. You will be organising playdates and parties in no time!
Sometimes we are very eager to get things done a certain way. Remember you are in a new country and sometimes things are done differently. Think about your end goal and don’t be stuck in your ways.
Learn about the local culture
Learn from the country and its culture. Find activities that are done locally and adopt them. Keep an open mind, you might find a new hobby for you and your brood. Learn a few basic words in your host country’s language and teach them to your kids. Saying please and thank you opens many doors in any language.
Make a home of your house
This is not always easy but try to make the kids feel at home. Establish similar routines to what you had before and make sure they recognise their spaces as their own. Bring their blankets and their favorite toys for the first few weeks and even if you don’t have frames, stick some photos of their friends and family on the walls.
Go out on new adventures and have fun! Enjoy trying new foods. Have fun meeting new people and finding your new fave places. Sure enough, you will soon be calling this place home.
This article was contributed by Ana Gaby of Stumble Abroad.
This article is sponsored by Crown Relocations.