{"id":206508,"date":"2024-06-18T09:31:40","date_gmt":"2024-06-18T01:31:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thehoneycombers.com\/hong-kong\/?p=206508"},"modified":"2024-06-18T09:32:35","modified_gmt":"2024-06-18T01:32:35","slug":"being-both-out-and-closeted","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thehoneycombers.com\/hong-kong\/being-both-out-and-closeted\/","title":{"rendered":"Stuck in limbo: My experience with being both out and closeted"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>At a young age, <strong>I swore I\u2019d never <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/thehoneycombers.com\/hong-kong\/getting-married-early\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>get married<\/strong><\/a>. This wasn\u2019t due to a political stance or asexuality (although I\u2019d already rudimentarily grasped that I wasn\u2019t heterosexual). In fact, it\u2019s because I had drilled into my head that I would never be able to exist fully and always have to keep part of myself hidden. It only took moving to one of the most <a href=\"https:\/\/thehoneycombers.com\/hong-kong\/lgbtq-friendly-cities\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">LGBTQ-friendly cities<\/a> in the world a decade or so later that I eventually began living somewhat openly. Although I\u2019d tricked myself into thinking I\u2019d overcome all my childhood fears and shame, I remained closeted in a significant portion of my world. While there might not be a specific <a href=\"https:\/\/thehoneycombers.com\/hong-kong\/lgbtq-terms-beginners-guide\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">LGBTQ+ term<\/a> for being both out and closeted, it\u2019s the <strong>lived reality of a lot of queer people<\/strong> for at least some point of their lives. This Pride Month, I\u2019m reflecting on this weird limbo that I spent the majority of my life in.<\/p>\n<h2>My experience being both out and closeted<\/h2>\n<h3>Secrets secrets are no fun \u2013 especially if they make you hate yourself<\/h3>\n<figure id=\"attachment_206515\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-206515\" style=\"width: 1400px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-206515 lazyload\" data-src=\"https:\/\/static.thehoneycombers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2024\/06\/out-closeted-secrets.jpg\" alt=\"being both out and closeted secrets\" width=\"1400\" height=\"1000\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/static.thehoneycombers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2024\/06\/out-closeted-secrets.jpg 1400w, https:\/\/static.thehoneycombers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2024\/06\/out-closeted-secrets-900x643.jpg 900w, https:\/\/static.thehoneycombers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2024\/06\/out-closeted-secrets-768x549.jpg 768w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 1400px) 100vw, 1400px\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 1400px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 1400\/1000;\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-206515\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Psst\u2026 Can you keep a secret? (Photography: DNY59 via Getty Images Signature)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>When I came of age in Hong Kong during the mid-to-late 2000s, I of course knew that LGBTQ+ people existed. Like any other pre-Netflix \u201900s queer youth, I was secretly torrenting <a href=\"https:\/\/thehoneycombers.com\/hong-kong\/lgbtq-movies\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">gay movies<\/a> and watching \u201cgay kissing on TV\u201d Youtube compilation videos. However, the few real-life points of reference I had for being queer were whispered giggles, stereotyped peers, and my mum attempting to talk me out of attending a Lady Gaga concert because she \u201clikes gay people.\u201d As such, <strong>I internalised the ideas that I needed to keep these aspects of myself hidden and that I was unlovable<\/strong>, so that it\u2019d be easier to accept that I wouldn\u2019t be searching for love \u2013 or that love wouldn\u2019t come to me.<\/p>\n<p>Side note: I also had a period where I thought maybe I just wasn\u2019t \u201ccapable\u201d of love, but that turned out to be a confused perception of how people were supposed to emote, caused by plain ol\u2019 <a href=\"https:\/\/thehoneycombers.com\/hong-kong\/diagnosed-with-autism-as-an-adult\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Autism Spectrum Disorder<\/a> \u2013 a whole other bag of worms. Nevertheless, by the time high school hit, I knew of a few friends and peers that were queer, but <strong>I was still firmly in the closet<\/strong>. I was terrified that my parents, who\u2019d lived almost their whole lives in South Korea (far from the pinnacle of LGBTQ+ acceptance back then), would never accept me. I also had a visceral negative reaction to feeling any form of <strong>vulnerability<\/strong>. Looking back, I\u2019m not sure if my straight charade was actually convincing, or if my closest friends were just nice enough to not mention anything until I was ready.<\/p>\n<h3>Baby gay blues<\/h3>\n<figure id=\"attachment_206517\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-206517\" style=\"width: 1400px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-206517 lazyload\" data-src=\"https:\/\/static.thehoneycombers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2024\/06\/out-closeted-gay.jpg\" alt=\"both out and closeted gay\" width=\"1400\" height=\"1000\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/static.thehoneycombers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2024\/06\/out-closeted-gay.jpg 1400w, https:\/\/static.thehoneycombers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2024\/06\/out-closeted-gay-900x643.jpg 900w, https:\/\/static.thehoneycombers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2024\/06\/out-closeted-gay-768x549.jpg 768w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 1400px) 100vw, 1400px\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 1400px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 1400\/1000;\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-206517\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Yay for gay? (Photography: SeventyFour)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Even when I moved all the way to New York City for university, my internalised fear and shame was so complicated that I was barely a toe out of the closet for over a year. What helped nudge me out was eventually getting the sense that one of my new closest friends was also queer. But unfortunately, with both of us too nervous to come out to the other first, we spent a whole year <strong>playing gay chicken<\/strong> \u2013 trading loaded questions like, \u201chave you seen <em>Blue is the Warmest Colour<\/em>?\u201d Even when I was eventually out in my daily life in NYC and to old friends from Hong Kong, I rarely vocalised my identity or explicitly \u201ccame out\u201d, instead just talking casually like I\u2019d been out this whole time without acknowledging it.<\/p>\n<p>Being back in Hong Kong was a whole other story. As I was still convinced that I couldn\u2019t say anything to my family, <strong>I kept my other reality a secret<\/strong>. For the two dates with a girl I psyched myself up into going on while back for summer, I\u2019d scheduled at least six MTR stops away for good measure. As my university years went by, being wrapped up in my own shame of being both out and closeted in turn made me fail to notice that <strong>my family was changing as well<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Since I was away for most of the year when living in NYC, I was finally dressing comfortably and getting haircuts at my own prerogative. If you look at any photograph of me from that period, you\u2019d think that I was blind or stupid for believing that <strong>I was masked in a magical cloak of heterosexuality the minute I stepped onto Hong Kong soil<\/strong>. Although my level of denial was truly mind-blowing, my mother at least could read the tea leaves. But it was only until she explicitly sat me down and began telling me how \u201cthe world is different now,\u201d that a light bulb went off for me. Yet, what should\u2019ve been a cathartic and happy moment for me was quite the opposite. I froze and hastily made an excuse to make a beeline out of the conversation in fear.<\/p>\n<h3>A long and winding road\u2026<\/h3>\n<figure id=\"attachment_206518\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-206518\" style=\"width: 1400px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-206518 lazyload\" data-src=\"https:\/\/static.thehoneycombers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2024\/06\/out-closeted-road.jpg\" alt=\"being both out and closeted road\" width=\"1400\" height=\"1000\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/static.thehoneycombers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2024\/06\/out-closeted-road.jpg 1400w, https:\/\/static.thehoneycombers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2024\/06\/out-closeted-road-900x643.jpg 900w, https:\/\/static.thehoneycombers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2024\/06\/out-closeted-road-768x549.jpg 768w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 1400px) 100vw, 1400px\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 1400px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 1400\/1000;\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-206518\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">The road ahead isn\u2019t always clear (Photography: Jeroen Mikkers via Getty Images)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>At some point, it became obvious I could no longer tell myself that I was still partially closeted due to external factors, like my environment or my family. <strong>But I could barely understand how deeply ingrained my internal shame about my sexuality had become<\/strong>. When you added in the fact that my undiagnosed ASD kept rearing its head to block whatever kind of emotional reflection I attempted, it was a perfect storm of anxiety and depression. Even the people I was trying to date didn\u2019t relieve any stress, as I was so closed off and at times unintentionally callous that I didn\u2019t feel like a \u201cgood person\u201d anymore. While I tried to connect with people earnestly, I found myself feeling increasingly empty or confused.<\/p>\n<p>Attempts at personal growth, while hitting a breakthrough with my official diagnosis of autism, also hit a not-so-little snag when Covid erupted right as I was moving back home to Hong Kong. The positive effect of getting a clearer picture of my mental health and understanding of how my mind worked can\u2019t be understated. But <strong>constantly being aware of holding a huge part of myself back from my family hung over me<\/strong>. I\u2019d love to say that coming back to Hong Kong gave me the push I needed to stop being both out and closeted, but the truth was it took me a few more years.<\/p>\n<p>The larger truth is that I still haven\u2019t completely resolved all of my internal conflicts, as my coming-out was just a result of a random overwhelming emotional state during a New Year\u2019s Eve family dinner. However, I can only hope that from here on, <strong>I don\u2019t have to feel alone with my negative thoughts and emotions<\/strong>. Whether it\u2019s the isolating side effects of my disorder or of being in the closet, being finally open about both is what I think can help me lead a fulfilling life. I\u2019m still not sure if I ever want to get married, but at least now, I know the biggest obstacle I face may be my personality, and not my sexuality.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>At a young age, I swore I\u2019d never get married. 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